Bedside table essentials: Natural noises alarm clock (Nature et Découvertes), Neom Organics Tranquility candle & pillow spray, YesMum cards, a bit of greenery, The Simple Things magazine, a Time Turner in my jewellery dish...
Of all the rooms in a house, small bedrooms pose the least amount of problems. After all, a bedroom is for sleeping and little else...right? Not so when babies and toddlers enter the equation!
When my son was born we were living in a one bedroom 40m2 apartment and we all shared that one bedroom. We were lucky that it was a reasonable size and it fit our queen size bed, double Ikea wardrobes, two bedside tables, an armchair and a cot in quite nicely. Of course, all of that furniture left us very little room to walk...or to be honest, stand up, get dressed or do anything that didn't involve sleeping. But we did it, for fourteen long months we did it! We slept, napped, breast fed, dressed, changed nappies, read and occasionally hid from each other in that full to the brim bedroom.
Now we live in a one bedroom 50m2 apartment, (I know - what a huge difference!) and the bedroom is less of a reasonable size I knew that I couldn't share a sleeping space with children any longer! Kids are loud sleepers, they snore, grunt, shuffle, rustle, cry and talk in their sleep. As a busy working mum I NEED my sleep, and more than that, I need my space. I dreamt of a soft, cozy space all of our own to sleep, read, dream, burn lavender scented candles etc. A place I could be alone in luxurious silk pyjamas and bright white sheets (the things all mums of toddlers dream of if we're being honest!).
So, and this is going to sound counter-productive, we moved our bed into the living room.
Now, again we were lucky that our living space is large enough to support this. The couple who lived here before us kept an eight person dining table where our bed now is (different families, different priorities!). It sounds mad, but I honestly think that this one move has been one of the best decisions we've made as a family for the following reasons:
- We don't share a bedroom with our son - we get some time to ourselves! He goes to bed at 7.30pm and the evening is ours.
- We end up going to bed at the same time as each other - good for our marriage, good for our sleep habits.
- We watch less mindless TV - when we do watch TV, we watch it together. Before, one of us could go to the bedroom & watch something on another device.
- We keep all toys in the bedroom at night. Everything is tidied away after dinner ready for bath & story time. This means that our living room/bedroom is kept clutter free (hooray!) and I can prepare for our next day.
We've considered screening off our bed, putting up a temporary wall and various other ideas to "make a bedroom" but finally - we're happy with the current lay out. This doesn't mean that we wouldn't want a bedroom if one were available - a shared living/sleeping space definitely has some constraints but we're learning to be satisfied where we are with what we've got, and that's definitely worth some effort.